One of the most difficult things to do after the death of a loved one is to tell a child about it. It never gets easier to do this, but there are some things that can help the process a bit. If you are concerned about how to best let them know of death, cremation providers and funeral homes have some suggestions on how to begin this conversation.
It can be tempting to lie to a child about the death of their loved one. It is much easier to tell them that the person went on a trip or is ill, than it is to let them know of the death. Lying, however, can make it much more difficult for both of you in the future. The best thing you can do for your child is to let them know about what has happened soon after the death.
Like anyone else, a child will have questions about what happened. You should allow them to as what they need to and answer them as honestly as possible. If you do not know the answer to one of their questions, tell them this. Children do not like being patronized when speaking about a subject as important as a loved one’s passing, so the best thing you can do is treat them like equals.
If you feel the need to cry or express your own sadness, do not shy away from this. Displaying your emotions can let the child know that they are allowed to do so, as well. Children take emotional cues from adults, so it can be extremely helpful and healthy to show them displays of grief are allowed.
Use the actual words. Euphemisms for the words “death” or “died” are not helpful for children and can end up confusing them. Using the words can also let them know that they can say these words themselves, promoting a healthy relationship with the idea of death. Of course, how much you explain about the process is up to you.
Let them know what comes next. If your loved one will be buried and will have a funeral service, tell the child about this. The same thing applies with cremations. It can also be helpful for a child to know that they have the choice of whether to attend the services or not. Some children do not feel comfortable doing this, while others want to attend.
All of these suggestions and tips can make the conversation somewhat easier for both you and the child. If you are still not sure how to begin or if you are struggling with the wording, reach out to the funeral home director or the provider of cremations in La Porte, IN that you have hired. At Cutler Funeral Home and Cremation Center our experts can guide you through this conversation and can even provide reading material to help. Stop by our location at 2900 Monroe St La Porte, IN 46350 or call us at (219) 362-2828 now.